kristen brunello: eating disorder recovery coach

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frequently asked questions


about recovery coaching & services:

What is Eating Disorder Recovery Coaching?

Eating Disorder Recovery Coaching is a form of life coaching that focuses on people in recovery. Trained through the Souluna Life Coach Certification™,  I will work to guide you into the depths of what it means to be a human being, and not just someone who has an eating disorder. I will meet you where you are in your recovery journey and help you get to where you want to be. My goal is for you to reclaim your power over your eating disorder, to no longer feel like you are a victim, and to play an active role in manifesting the life that you want to live.

What is the difference between coaching and therapy?

Therapy is critical in recovery and I want to be clear that I believe in it and that what I do is not therapy, nor am I qualified to call myself a therapist. I think that the biggest difference between therapy and coaching is that as your coach, I do not need to know your story. In fact, I simply don't want to hear it. With your therapist you can work through your past to unblock memories, traumas, and feelings that might be keeping you stuck and from thriving and recovering. Instead, I meet you as you are today, and guide you towards where you want to be. Past issues might feel resolved in the process, but we are not specifically working on them. Most of us know our stories really well and replay them in our heads daily. I am more interested in helping you write your new story.

Can I have a coach and a therapist at the same time?

Absolutely! In fact, I require most of my clients to work with a therapist while also working with me. Sometimes coaching can shake things up from your past, and I want to make sure that you feel safe and fully supported in this process. 

What is your coaching style?

True to my Jersey roots, I take a tough love, no-nonsense approach to coaching and recovery. I am grounded, steady, and intuitive. I have been told by strangers that I have an old soul and by my clients that I make them feel safe. I promise that in my pushing, I will not let you drown. I think that in the beginning of recovery people need softness, patience, and holding; they are just trying to survive and deal with everything that has and is happening in their life. There comes a point when this becomes more inhibiting than helpful. I work with people who are past this point. They are looking to be transformed and deeply want change in their life. They might be terrified, but they are ready to make their dream of recovery their reality. They long to be part of a tribe of people that will accept them just as they are and share the same value of living a recovered life.

What do we do during a session?

The answer to this question is mostly client-specific. However, I will work with you to identify your likes and dislikes, passions and longings, and purpose. Then, it becomes, how do we get what you feel, say, think, and do to line up with your likes, passions, and purpose? I would say that 90% of the session is me guiding you into your own brilliance and insights - what you already know, but have forgotten because your eating disorder covered it up. The other 10% consists of creating soulwork (homework) that will help you deepen your learning from the session; I assign soulwork at the end of each session. I don't give advice, but I may give suggestions based on things that worked for me or other people that I know who have recovered. In between sessions I am available for check-ins and I will hold you accountable to your soulwork. 

Are your rates flexible?

Yes! I offer a tiered payment structure for my one-on-one sessions ($99 - $300) for 3 sessions per month (see offerings page). I offer a "pay what you can" structure for some of my other services. I believe in equality and want to make sure that everyone feels like they have access to my offerings. I understand that many people have left their jobs for treatment and are also paying therapists, nutritionists, and psychiatrists. I also understand that many people cannot access treatment at all because of socioeconomic factors and oppression. I do think that the question "what am I willing to invest in my recovery"  is an important one for you to ask and decide for yourself, and I don't just mean monetarily. What are your life, recovery, and future worth to you? If you think that coaching with me will be helpful for you, let's talk. 

Do you ever turn down a potential client?

Yes. Some people are not far enough along in their recovery to benefit from coaching. It might serve them better to invest more time or money into therapy and nutrition instead. This is OK! At one point, this was everyone in recovery. Do the work and come back to me.

Do you only do recovery coaching? Or do you coach other people too?

I mostly do recovery coaching, but I also have clients that are not in recovery. If you like my vibe, reach out to me.

What have you helped other clients with in the past?

  • Owning their story
  • Connecting to their healthy/recovered self
  • Having honest and non-violent communication with their loved ones
  • Finding and living into their passions and purpose
  • Leaving toxic relationships
  • Setting boundaries with ED and the people in their life that are harmful to recovery
  • Playing a more active role in their recovery process
  • Creating new perspectives for the uncomfortable feelings that arise in recovery
  • Self-care, self-love, and self-patience
  • Mindful eating
  • Finding balance with exercise
  • Processing emotions
  • Scheduling their days to be most conducive to recovery
  • Finding, leaving, and changing jobs or schools
  • Starting new and organizing existing projects
  • Getting finances organized
  • Paying off credit card debt 

Is coaching right for me?

I don't know! Contact me for a free consultation and let's talk about it.


about my recovery:

How did you recover?

This is a big question. I think it was a combination of a therapist who I trusted that specialized in eating disorders, an amazing and always available nutritionist, the right medication, yoga, finding friends that would not accept me acting on symptoms, and the belief that it was possible.

What was the most helpful to you in your recovery?

The most helpful for me to fully recover was finding a community of people that would not tolerate me being sick. Their presence in my life was more important to me than my eating disorder and I did not want to lose them. I think that when I was sick I felt like I had nothing. If I had nothing, then I also had nothing to lose; at least I had my eating disorder. When I found something that I did not want to let go of, that was the final piece of the puzzle. Having these friends and having an eating disorder were mutually exclusive.

Will I ever be able to love/enjoy/appreciate my body?

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. But be prepared to work for it.

Is there anything that you still struggle with?

In life? Yes. In regards to an eating disorder? No. I actually think because of the amount of work I have done around food and my body that I have a healthier relationship with both than most people that I know - even if they don't or never had an eating disorder.

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Let's do this.